This answer is directed at early stage startups, when you're in the business of finding out product/market fit. Shaving 5ms may increase revenues by 1%, but unless that 1% is a factor more than your yearly compensation, read on.
First, maximize distance between you and managing any infrastructure. Don't open a data center, don't buy servers, don't lease them, and don't even run EC2 instances or mess with EBS volumes. Out-source your infrastructure.
Second, when switching costs are low, make quick decisions. If it takes an hour to deploy your first app on a hosted platform, do the math: it takes an hour to switch to a different provider. Don't worry about picking the best, or what will happen when you grow. Decide early, decide often.
With that in mind, here are the services we use for development and in production right now. If you're wondering where to start, or not happy with one of your providers, check this list:
http://github.com/ for hosting code, documentation, and issue tracker. Developer docs are in Markdown and checked into source control; avoid the Wiki. If you need a friendly UI for editing docs, have a look at http://prose.io.
http://huboard.com/ is a Kanban-style board using Github issues as tasks. Good for small teams.
http://codeship.io is our CI. It picks up changed from Github, runs the test suite, deploys to production, and notifies us via email/HipChat.
http://hipchat.com/ is our water cooler, 1:1 chat, and we also feed it with notifications from Github, CI build status, production alerts, etc.
http://papertrailapp.com/ for logging.
http://rollbar.io for catching and reporting errors. You want errors emailed to you, but don't need 1,000 copies of the same error, and should be able to tell if error persists after deploying new code. There are many exception tracking services, Rollbar does a great job of balancing capabilities with simplicity.
http://pingdom.com/ will monitor if your server is up. Tip: setup alerts for multiple pages, check content not just status code, and monitor your HTML, CSS **and** JS assets.
http://deadmanssnitch.com/ will track your back-end jobs. Basically, jobs ping an HTTP endpoint on completion, DMS alerts if it hasn't seen a ping in a while. You can set different check rates for hourly jobs, daily jobs, etc.
http://pagerduty.com/ so your most important alerts get immediate attention, and for managing on-call rotation. You can integrate it with anything that can send an email (Pingdom, DMS, Rollbar, etc).
http://mixpanel.com/ for application/business metrics. If you need deep Web analytics (e.g. slice by screen resolution and OS version), or SEO, then Google Analytics is where you go. But if you're looking at feature usage, funnels, retention, customer segmentation, etc then MixPanel is the easier path to insight.
http://nodejitsu.com/ for deploying you Node.js Web app in production. I spent 5 minutes on this decision, because switching costs.
http://iron.io for back-end processing. Typically Web app platforms don't want to run your back-end jobs. iron.io offers queuing, including easy integration with Webhooks, scheduling, and place to run your workers.
http://mongohq.com/ for database. Note, you can provision a database directly from the Nodejistu Web console, but that only gives you app/shell access. If you create an account directly with MongoHQ, you get access to the wonderful Web console (great for sharing queries with the PM). I suspect this it the case with other platform/database add-on combos.
http://name.com/ as the registrar because it's OK, and as cheap as they come without being GoDaddy. Amazon Route53 for DNS because the UI is better, there's an API, and it integrates well with S3 and CloudFront, which we use for serving assets.
http://heroku.com/ is the granddaddy of Platform as a Service, but gets pricey fast and never quite grew on me. Regardless, it's often the easiest way to start, and if nothing else, when looking for a hosted service provider – maybe you need a Redis instance or a Graphite dashboard — start by checking out the Heroku add-on page.
Heroku: Great for small applications and getting off the ground as fast as possible. It's easy to manage and your team can focus on features instead of worrying about maintaining operations.
Cloud (AWS, Rackspace, Azure): Great if you're expecting growth. You can start up instances easily and shut others down if you don't need them anymore. You still need to manage your servers, but as you grow to several servers, it'll be worth it.
Inhouse: If you don't expect growth, or you have enough money to hire a few people to take care of the equipment, this is the cheapest option for computing power. I wouldn't recommend it for a new company since it takes so much maintenance.
This depends on which environment you work on. Ruby has Capistrano, Python has fabric, etc. Heroku also has their own deployment method and some other cloud providers also do. A quick google search will most likely lead you to the most popular method for your technology.
My favourite is Hipchat (http://hipchat.com/). There's also Campfire (https://campfirenow.com/) and several other providers. Hipchat has a native client for each platform (even mobile) that gets really handy.
This depends on what you want to monitor. The most popular in the ruby world is NewRelic (http://newrelic.com/). It monitors application and database performance. If you just want to monitor your server (cpu, memory, uptime), you can try out Server Density (http://www.serverdensity.com/).
It depends on your monitoring needs and tech stack. New Relic has a pretty nifty monitoring product. Crashlytics is the go to for iOS apps. Testflight live has a crash monitoring and analytics product for iOS but its a bit clunky. GA you can also always view real time data and if nobody is onsite you know you have a problem (seemingly because its down). There's also free/cheaper more basic services that ping your web server to make sure your sites up and then notifies you if its down. The etsy team has a good bit of info on how they do analytics, monitoring and stats on their code is craft blog.
When building software for our customers, we always use Heroku (http://heroku.com). We refuse to use EC2 etc in the beginning, since the name-of-the-game is to focus all time and money on the actual software. I really hate the hosting question since this doesn't matter in the beginning. For most start-ups today: heroku-free option is just fine.
This is taken care of when using Heroku, 'cause all you need to do push your code to the repo and it's deployed. Time-saved.
Today, use Slack (http://slackhq.com). It has a ton of integrations.
Airbrake or something hosted.
Smartest CTO's use whatever get the job done that uses the least-friction for the team.
There are several options to choose from.
1. TeamCity: JetBrains’ TeamCity is a continuous integration and software deployment server with Docker images for servers and agents.
2. AWS CodeDeploy: AWS CodeDeploy makes it easier to rapidly release new features, helps avoid downtime during application deployment, and handles the complexity of updating applications. AWS CodeDeploy can automate software deployments.
3. Octopus Deploy: It enables software developers to automate application deployments, whether on-premises or in the cloud.
4. ElectricFlow: ElectricFlow helps model, automate, and track cloud-native, container, and legacy application deployments with ease.
5. PDQ Deploy: PDQ Deploy offers the ability to remotely install software or patches to Windows systems.
You can read more here: https://stackify.com/software-deployment-tools/
Besides if you do have any questions give me a call: https://clarity.fm/joy-brotonath